DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are celebrating our second anniversary. For the most part, we're very happy. He's the best friend I've ever had. The problem is his family. They're wonderful people who have welcomed me with open arms. But they are also extremely clingy and lack common boundaries.

We recently moved to a larger home that's closer to them but farther from my family. Now that we live closer, they constantly pop in unannounced for visits at inconvenient times, such as while I'm getting dinner plated up. His mother has been told numerous times that we are private people and don't like a lot of company, but she still keeps doing the same thing. She's also trying to throw parties at our house and talking about putting in a pool, even though we have told her no repeatedly.

And, Abby, when one family member shows up, you can almost guarantee that two or three more will show up soon after. When we moved in, my family came to see the house. They had been here no more than five minutes when his entire family -- aunts, cousins, everyone -- showed up and took over! Consequently, my family didn't really get to visit or even see the house because things got too chaotic. Please help. -- LOSING IT IN ALABAMA

DEAR LOSING IT: When you married into your husband's family, they welcomed you as one of their own. If I read your letter correctly, they view you as a family member, and your family as blended into their own. Because you need more privacy and boundaries than you have been able to establish, you may need your husband to help you get the message across in a way they can accept without becoming offended.

DEAR ABBY: I have been with my girlfriend for 25 years. We have never married for various reasons. She is in her 60s, and I am 13 years younger. Our sex life isn't so good anymore. As a matter of fact, it is gone. What can I do as a younger man to make her feel special again? How can I light her fire? We still sleep in the same room, but that's about it.

I am not ugly, overweight or unappealing. Is there any hope for at least a slight increase in sex? All of my parts are working, so that's not the problem. I don't want to cheat, and there are too many diseases I could catch out there. Please advise. -- READY AND WILLING IN ARIZONA

DEAR READY: It's time for you and your lady friend to have a calm, honest conversation about your lack of a sex life. When you do, ask her if sex causes her pain, because that may be the reason for her lack of interest. If that's the case, her gynecologist can suggest remedies for fixing the problem. If her reason is that she's simply no longer interested, she should discuss it with her doctor and ask for a referral to an endocrinologist who may be able to help her rebalance her hormones.

DEAR ABBY: For the past two years, I have been trying to conceal from my family (with modest success) that I'm asexual. I overhear conversations my parents have been having with my older siblings on the subject of dating, and I'm becoming increasingly frustrated that my experiences have been so different from theirs. I have never dated the same person twice, as three of my brothers have.

I am considering coming out to a select circle of fellow students on my college campus. Understandably, I'm anxious about it because I have never planned a "coming-out party" before. I'm also worried about how my parents might react if they find out before I'm ready to tell them. My decision to come out would likely conflict with my family's conservative-leaning religious beliefs.

To complicate matters further, my family has been planning a road trip so I can finally visit someone I met on a dating app who lives nine hours away. I'm worried she might not want to date me if she finds out about my asexuality and, by extension, my hesitation to commit to a long-term relationship.

What recommendations do you have for how to move forward? Should I cancel my coming-out plans to appease my family, or should I focus on building a support system? -- CLOSETED IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR CLOSETED: If you feel the need to come out to your family (at some point) about your asexuality, postpone the announcement until you are comfortable doing it. Asexuality isn't a sin, and their religious leanings should have nothing to do with it. I see no reason for you to make a "grand announcement" at home or on campus at this time. Your relationship with the women you date shouldn't present a problem if they are also asexual. Go online and you will find there are many resources for asexual people, including dating sites.

DEAR ABBY: My longtime friend -- let's call her "Cindy" -- is six months pregnant and has started sharing name ideas with me regarding her baby -- it's a girl. For some reason, Cindy will hear a word she thinks sounds pretty and think it will make a great name for her daughter, regardless of the meaning of the word. I had to beg her to stop considering "Chlamydia" as a name. She finally agreed after I repeatedly emphasized the bullying her daughter could receive over that name.

Now she has her heart set on the name "Cliche" and seems to think as long as the name isn't an STD, everything will be fine with that choice. She's now calling me "hypercritical" as this is the fourth name I've objected to. ("Bidet" and "Chalet" were the other selections.)

Cindy's family doesn't seem to care and even agrees that "Chlamydia" sounds lovely, and she should go with that name. I'm at my wits' end. I only want to help an innocent child avoid a lifetime of ridicule and stress. What should I do? -- NORMALLY NAMED IN NEW YORK

DEAR NORMALLY NAMED: There are none so blind as those who will not see, and none so deaf as those who refuse to listen. Suggest Cindy might like the Greek names Kalista, Lydia, Olympia or Andromeda. A constellation was named after Andromeda, a beautiful daughter of Greek myth. After that, avoid frustration by no longer offering Cindy more suggestions.

DEAR ABBY: My sister is cheap. She's also not good at choosing gifts for people. Often, the things she gives are worse than if she'd done nothing at all. An example: She was just here visiting and brought my 4-year-old a toy car she'd picked up at a garage sale (fine, so far), but one of the wheels was broken off. She had the wheel in her purse and said something about gluing it back on, but never did. Once she left, we tried to glue it, but it turned out the toy wasn't fixable, and my son was very disappointed.

This isn't the first time this has happened. There's a history of clothes that are too small, ripped or dirty, toys sent so late the child has long outgrown that stage, etc. It's not a matter of money. She's the director of a large law school, so she can buy anything she likes. It is a matter of attention.

I've spoken to her several times about not bringing gifts anymore, but she glosses over the disappointment and says she loves seeing kids open the things she brings. Someday, my kids will be old enough to see her behavior as quirky, but for now I want it to stop. Am I right? -- GIFT RIFT IN THE WEST

DEAR GIFT RIFT: You are not wrong. Your sister appears to be "a little off-center." I agree with you that one day in the not-too-distant future, your children will be discerning enough to notice the "gifts" your sister brings are soiled or broken and selected without regard to their interests or taste. A way to avoid the problem would be not to invite her to visit around birthday or holiday time, or intercept her inappropriate gifts before the kids see them.

DEAR ABBY: Last year, we renovated our house. We now have a south-facing roof that is ready for the installation of solar panels. Our utility company has an incentive program to lower the cost of the equipment, but it ends in six months.

The only thing holding us back is the next-door neighbors' old, tall tree that shades our roof where the panels would go. The tree is cracked and has been coming down in sections over the last several years. Previous owners of the house had to repair their front windows and gutter after a large branch came crashing down in a storm.

The current owners are a young couple with a small baby. We have had occasional, friendly driveway conversations but don't really know them. Would it be presumptuous to ask if they would be willing to let us pay to have their tree removed? People can be prickly about their property. But maybe they wouldn't mind someone else covering what is probably an inevitable cost.

We want to continue having a friendly relationship, while also moving forward with our project. Thoughts? -- UPGRADING IN NORTH CAROLINA

DEAR UPGRADING: Because you have a cordial relationship with these neighbors, it shouldn't be offensive to point out that their tree presents a problem. When you do, tell them that a falling branch had damaged their front windows and gutter, which caused an expensive repair. Explain that the cracks in the tree could present a danger to their little one, then volunteer that you are more than willing to pay the cost of having it removed.