DEAR ABBY: My close friend "Annie" came to my father's funeral. She had met him only a couple of times. While I realized she was doing it to be there for me, I felt responsible for her since she knew no one there. I had her sit with me, but I was trying to deal with friends and family I hadn't seen in a long time. I ended up unable to talk with everyone as the funeral was very emotional. I appreciated her coming, but I wished she hadn't been there.

I prefer to avoid funerals because I become emotional. Unless it's immediate family, I prefer to remember the deceased the way they were and keep those images as my last memories.

My dilemma: Annie's mom is having health issues, and the time will come when she passes. I have met her a few times, but we are not close. I feel I should go to the funeral to be there for Annie as she was for me, but I would prefer to remember her mom as she was. So, do I go for her sake and end up an emotional wreck, or get together with her a few days later, just the two of us, which is what I wish she had done for me? -- SAD EITHER WAY IN THE EAST

DEAR SAD: Please accept my sympathy for the loss of your father. I can only imagine how emotional you and your family must have been at that funeral. Annie meant to be supportive, and I don't think it would be helpful to point out that her presence distracted you from talking with the many relatives who had gathered.

I do think you need to ask Annie those questions. ("Do you need me to be present for emotional support at your mother's services, or would you prefer we get together -- just the two of us -- a few days later?") They are important. Take your cues from her reaction, but be prepared for the fact that when it actually happens, her feelings may be different.

DEAR ABBY: My 11-year-old daughter, "Emma," has a group of six to eight friends she has played with at school, in scouts, parties, etc., for more than three years. Eight months ago, one of the girls, "Charlotte," had a sleepover, and Emma was not invited. She was very hurt and cried. I told her she would not always be invited to everything and maybe there was a limit Charlotte could invite.

Since then, whenever there is an event that Emma knows Charlotte will be at, my daughter refuses to go. For eight months she has purposely skipped some parties and scouting events. Otherwise, they all seem to still hang together at school. How can I help my daughter understand she is only hurting herself? -- EMPATHETIC MOM IN OHIO

DEAR MOM: It is time your daughter was taught that she doesn't have to "like" everyone she socializes with -- however, she may need to get along with them. If she can absorb that lesson, it will benefit her as she goes through school and beyond. Tell Emma you hate seeing her punish herself, thinking it will hurt Charlotte, when Charlotte may not notice her absence at all. Although Emma is just 11, the time has come for her to do some growing up.

DEAR ABBY: This letter is embarrassing to write. When calling in a fast-food order, my husband wants me to ask the price of each item and becomes upset if they vary from the online menu price. I understand that in this economy, there are bound to be increases.

One day, the difference was about $5. Because I didn't question it, a heated argument ensued. He said, "Just forget it!" (I called back and said my husband no longer wanted it.) These fast-food places are busy and short-staffed. I don't think it is right to bug them further. Also, I had a stroke and can't do fast math in my head. We have the money, or I wouldn't place the order.

I tried discussing the disagreement; he said I just want to be right. This has been a LONG 40-plus years that I've had with him. He was poor when he was growing up, but we are no longer poor by any means. It's his controlling behavior that I hate. His reaction is always the same: "Why don't you walk away? Leave!"

I know he reads your column. Maybe you can help. I know I'm tired, and I think his behavior is emotionally abusive and controlling. He's 64 and too old to be acting like that. Unfortunately, he's been this way his whole life. I need help. -- TAKEOUT IN OHIO

DEAR TAKEOUT: It goes without saying that from now on your husband should be the one ordering the fast food. If he needs it to be a team effort, he can dictate the numbers for you to write down and add them up himself. I do not think his comments about your walking away and leaving him are helpful, unless he is this controlling in other aspects of your marriage. Remind him that if the root of your disagreements is money, a divorce would be far more expensive than marriage counseling. Then ask your doctor for a referral.

DEAR ABBY: I enjoy your column and read it often. I feel compelled to comment on the letter from "Regretful in the Midwest" (June 11). I feel you didn't go far enough in regard to that letter from the mother of a transgender adult whose new co-worker made fun of transgender people in front of her and, presumably, others. Actions such as these are no longer tolerated in the workplace, and she should report it to her supervisor or human resources if there is another occurrence. (She could even do it now.) She certainly does not need to disclose her personal situation. -- KEVIN H. IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR KEVIN: Thank you for writing. The comments I received about that letter were informative. Many readers informed me that the term I used in reference to trans people -- gender identity disorder -- is outdated and no longer in use. With the American Psychiatric Association's publication of DSM-5, the term was eliminated and replaced with "gender dysphoria," articulating explicitly that gender nonconformity is not a "disorder." I should have known better. Mea culpa.

DEAR ABBY: I am a 60-year-old divorcee. I am currently dating a Danish man and have been for a year. He asked me to marry him several months ago, and I said yes. He wants me and my daughter to move to Denmark. My daughter is 21 and high-functioning autistic, but she still needs me to help with executive functions.

Several months ago, I lost my second job. I got behind on my rent and was evicted. My daughter and I had no place to go and went to live with a friend in another state. When I asked my fiance if he could please help me a little, he refused and became angry, saying he didn't want to be a sugar daddy.

He tells me often how much he makes and what he has in the bank. I told him I wasn't asking for jewelry or fancy clothes, just $2,000 so we wouldn't lose our home. He told me to ask my ex-husband for the money. Because he refused, my daughter and I were evicted from our home. I eventually found a second job, but the damage had been done.

At the beginning of our relationship, I was up-front about my daughter most likely needing to live with us and asked if it was a deal-breaker. He said no. Now, he wants her to get out as soon as possible, in a foreign country where she doesn't know the language and has her issues. He also told me I couldn't keep my cat. When I expressed how this made me feel, he became angry and told me we were through and he wasn't going to help me.

I am not the kind of person who would take advantage of anyone. I have always worked hard. I feel that family should help each other, and, because we are engaged, our problems should be shared. I don't know what to do about our relationship now. My daughter is also hurt that he doesn't want her to be with us. He has said if she stayed, he would get his own apartment. Advice? -- GOING ABROAD FROM MARYLAND

DEAR GOING: How many red flags do you need? Your fiance is tight with money even when he knows you are drowning. He has no intention of living under the same roof with your daughter, who may be unable to adjust to that new society. Understand that if you move to Denmark, he isn't going to change. This is who he is. For your daughter's sake and your own, end the engagement. This is not the kind of husband you need.

DEAR ABBY: There's a boy in a grade above me. When he gets mad that a girl doesn't like him or his friend, he slut-shames them and calls them whores. Girls in my grade have tried to shake it off, but it won't stop. We don't want to resort to violence, but we might have to. What should we do? -- AT OUR WITS' END

DEAR WITS' END: Violence is never the answer. The girls who have been slut-shamed should tell their parents what has been going on and then inform the teachers and the administrators of your school. In the good old days, that boy's mouth would have been washed out with soap.