DEAR ABBY: My friend "Gene" and I have been friends since elementary school. We're now in our 50s. We were inseparable best friends all those years. When we were about 30, I started noticing our friendship seemed to be a one-way street because he made no effort to initiate contact.
Gene was gracious and inviting if I called him, but he never called me. Instead, he focused on friends he could benefit from professionally and withdrew from old friends like me. About 20 years ago, I stopped calling him and decided to move on with other friends who were more congenial and courteous.
You could count on one hand how many times I've seen or spoken to Gene in the past 10 years, but today I received a graduation invitation from his son who wants a cash gift for his high school graduation. Abby, his son wouldn't know me if I tapped him on the shoulder. To say I was appalled is an understatement.
I feel no obligation to send money to someone I don't know, and even less than that given the way Gene abandoned our decades-long friendship years ago. How can I handle this tactfully without coming across as rude or bitter? -- SHOCKED IN THE BLUEGRASS STATE
DEAR SHOCKED: The polite way to handle it would be to send the young man a congratulatory card, wishing him well.