DEAR ABBY: I am a licensed acupuncturist. One of my patients (also male) asked me to dinner, and since he seemed like a decent guy, I decided to go. After we finished and the $60 bill arrived, he told me he had forgotten his wallet and I needed to pay, which I did. After dinner he took me back to his house to supposedly show me some recent renovations, and within 10 minutes he tried to kiss me. Fortunately for me, the date ended well enough.
He asked me out again the next week. I figured everyone deserves a second chance, so I said yes. Well, this time he took me to a more expensive restaurant and -- guess what? He forgot his wallet again. This time it cost me $90. After dinner we went for a walk by the water and, when he tried to give me a hug, he knocked my only pair of glasses into the river.
I don't know if it was pre-planned or not, but because I had driven to his house, he knew I wouldn't be able to legally drive home without my glasses. This forced me to spend the night at his house. That I am able to retell this story means I survived that night, but what do you think? Does this guy sound like a loser or what? -- STUCK WITH THE BILL
DEAR STUCK: "This guy" strikes me as irresponsible or a manipulator. At the very least he should reimburse you for the glasses.
I'm not sure if it's ethical for you to be dating a client. According to the National Certification Commission for Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine, the provider should not engage in sexual contact with a patient if the contact commences after the practitioner-patient relationship is established. Because you don't trust his motives, you should not see him again socially.