DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend is incredibly sweet and kind to me, but he's often mean to strangers and can be very aggressive and angry. Some examples: I'm moving in with him, and we are giving a lot of furniture to the poor. One couple, who had agreed to take a couch, decided not to. He yelled at them and told them they were going back on their word and causing him problems, so they agreed to take it anyway.
Another example: We are dancers, and when someone got in his way on the dance floor, he yelled at them and called them names. I'm afraid he's going to make himself hated in class. In traffic he yells and swears at everyone. I'm worried he'll start to lose patience with me like this. Can you please give me some advice? -- NERVOUS IN THE NORTH
DEAR NERVOUS: Your boyfriend may be sweet and kind to you, but he has an anger management problem and a low tolerance for frustration. You are right to be concerned that one day he will unload on you.
Tell him you care about him, but you view his volatility as a danger to your relationship, and it may also hold him back in future employment. Urge him to get help for it. Without help, the problem will only get worse.