DEAR ABBY: About a year ago, I confessed to one of my close guy friends that I liked him. He said he wasn't looking for a relationship. I haven't brought it up since. I have now found out his roommate is interested in me. I politely declined his advances, but I can't help but wonder if the guy I like turned me down because he knew his roommate liked me.
Even though it's been over a year since I confessed my feelings, there hasn't been a day I haven't thought about him. I have a gut feeling that he's where I'm supposed to be, but I don't want to make another advance if he doesn't want to be anything more than friends. I'm afraid of ruining our friendship.
We hang out in groups all the time and have deep conversations just the two of us, but we've never hung out alone, and he doesn't initiate text messages or phone calls. Still, the connection we have when we're together is undeniable and can't be ignored. Should I tell him I still like him and risk being embarrassed again? Or should I stay quiet and live a life thinking "what if?" -- MS. DANGEROUSLY IN LOVE
DEAR MS. DANGEROUSLY: Because you are dissatisfied with the way things are and thinking about a romantic relationship with this person every day, it's time to get a definite answer from him. Tell him you care about him and ask one more time. But if his answer is still no, then accept that it isn't meant to be and move on.