DEAR ABBY: I put a family member through nursing school. Since becoming an R.N. and getting a job in a hospital, he has told me that, with "the best intentions," he periodically reviews the medical records of other family members. I have told him what he's doing is illegal and inappropriate, yet he continues.
If I file a formal complaint, his career will be over and he could possibly even face jail time. I do not wish to do that. However, I need advice on how to keep him out of my private medical records. -- FED UP OUT WEST
DEAR FED UP: Your relative doesn't have the "best of intentions." Your relative is nosy! Because telling him how you feel about what he's doing hasn't stopped him, the only way to ensure your privacy is to turn him in.