DEAR ABBY: One of my girlfriends is dating my ex-boyfriend. They just had a kid, and he started flirting with me. I'm not in a relationship, so I flirted back. Now I'm getting bullied nonstop because people say I'm gonna break them up. But shouldn't they be mad at him more than me?
Why is everyone jumping down my throat? I didn't do anything with him. It was just words. Either way, he's the one in the relationship! He shouldn't have done it in the first place, and yes, I admit it was wrong on my part, too. But not as wrong, right?
I need help, because I go to a small school, and everyone here wants to jump me now. It's hard to concentrate on work with mean comments getting shouted out at me. I've said my "sorry's" to everyone. Even though it's none of their business. -- HE'S WRONG, RIGHT?
DEAR HE'S: It should be apparent that your ex-boyfriend still feels the need to prove to himself that he's attractive to women, which makes him no prize. You were right to apologize to "everyone." (I hope the first apology was to your girlfriend.)
There is an unwritten rule that you're not supposed to date your friends' exes, and frankly, this is the reason for it. I can't stop your classmates' judgment of you, and neither can you. But you can hold your head high and tell them you have learned a lesson.