DEAR ABBY: My friend "Russ" is a sweet, quiet, reserved guy with a goofy side. He's in his mid-20s, but has never kissed a girl or gone out on a date. (He is the kind of person girls regard as a brother figure.) He has no confidence and doesn't drink, dance or let loose. I have seen his dating profiles, and they are brutally unappealing.
I want to help Russ find someone before it's too late. I hate seeing him lonely. He needs someone to give him a chance and help him learn to be more confident. I know it's wrong to try to change someone, but I feel if he doesn't get some help, no one will ever give him the time of day. He needs a sense of adventure and, frankly, a change of wardrobe.
How can I help this "good boy" get the attention of the ladies? -- AMANDA IN WYOMING
DEAR AMANDA: You are a good friend. Talk to Russ and ask if he would be open to a bit of "coaching" to improve his social life. Tell him you have seen his dating profiles and offer to help him tweak them. If new photos are needed, suggest you go shopping together for a new outfit (or two), so he will have a more "contemporary" look. If he needs to learn to dance, show him some steps.
He may accept some help if you approach the subject with sensitivity. However, I'm not sure how much more than that you can do because, in the end, Russ is going to have to find a girl whose values mirror his own.