DEAR ABBY: I recently started seeing a self-made entrepreneur. He's intelligent, and basically the most amazing man I have ever been with.
Advertisement
Because of his position and stature, many beautiful and sophisticated women throw themselves at him. A friend of his told me that in the months that I've known him, he has had sex with at least five other women, several on the first date.
I'm not angry about it since we never formally agreed to be exclusive, but I'm in love with him and want him all to myself. When I confronted him, he said that because he never had success with women previously, he is prone to seduction. He said they didn't mean anything to him and that he wants to be with me.
I have dropped the matter for now, but I'm still concerned. I have tried to step up my game in the bedroom, and I'm willing to do anything to stop him from looking elsewhere. How do I make him give up his harem? -- WILLING TO DO ANYTHING
DEAR WILLING TO DO ANYTHING: I wish you had more clearly defined what "prone to seduction" means. Was he saying that because years ago he had little success with women he is enjoying the attention?
While you may be willing to "do anything" to have him all to yourself, if this man craves variety and is trying to make up for lost time, there's nothing you can do to dissuade him. The two of you appear to be at very different places in your lives. If you want a man who is willing to have an exclusive relationship, you're going to have to look elsewhere.