DEAR ABBY: I'm confused about what to do and need help. I've been married for two years and I love my husband, but he is in the military and I have big dreams.
The fact that he is military means where he goes, I go. There's no moving to where I want. My dream is to go to Le Cordon Bleu in Paris, but it's a two-year program. If I follow my dream and career, it would mean two years completely apart because, with culinary school, there are no summer breaks.
My husband says I can follow that dream, but I know it would place a HUGE strain on our marriage. Please help me. I don't know what to do. -- DREAMING IN ILLINOIS
DEAR DREAMING: If your husband were deployed to a war zone for two years, there would be a long separation. While it might strain the marriage, the separation would not necessarily destroy it.
A degree from Le Cordon Bleu will enhance your career path in the future, which would benefit both of you. There's no reward without some risk, but if you do not pursue your dream, you may resent your husband in the future. He says you have his blessing to follow your dream, so do it!