DEAR ABBY: My husband works as a bouncer at a strip club. I was OK with it at first, but then he started making friends with the dancers and waitresses. They exchange phone numbers, and he talks to some of them late at night when I'm sleeping. I get upset and jealous that these women are getting his time. It causes fights. What should I do? -- WIFE OF A TEXAS BOUNCER
DEAR WIFE: Is your husband placing these calls, or are the women calling him? Tell him you feel they are a threat to your marriage and ask why the calls happen after you have gone to bed.
It's possible the conversations are innocent. The women may relate to him because his job makes them feel "safe" with him. Many co-workers converse after work. Because a woman works in a strip club doesn't mean she's a predator.
However, because the timing of these calls bothers you, ask him if he would have them call before work rather than afterward when you would like him in bed with you.