DEAR ABBY: I was at my brother-in-law's house with my husband and our 4-year-old daughter. We were playing our weekly video game, and when my brother-in-law won a round, he shouted a racial epithet. I asked him not to use it in front of my little girl because if she repeats it at school, she could be suspended, and we don't use that kind of language in our family.
Now he claims I "disrespected him" and I should apologize to him because it was his house and he can say what he wants. He doesn't have children of his own.
Who is right here? Is it OK to say whatever you want because it's your house, or is it better to use some censorship when there are children around? -- WONDERING IN WYOMING
DEAR WONDERING: You did the right thing. Your brother-in-law should watch his mouth when your daughter is present. Because he's unwilling to do that, limit her exposure to him. And if she hears him do it again, make sure to explain to her that the expression is one you do not want her to ever repeat.