DEAR ABBY: My best friend is going through a divorce and has moved back in with her parents, who are driving her crazy. She doesn't have enough money to live on her own, so I offered to have her move in with me.
The more I think about it, the more I regret having said it. I enjoy living by myself. Also, she wants us to move to an area of the city that I don't care to live in. In addition, she has a male friend who is also going through a divorce and I dislike him. They spend a lot of time together, and I don't want to be around him.
I'm having second thoughts, but she's desperate to get out of her parents' home. I feel like a terrible friend. Should I suck it up and be there for her? If not, how do I break it to her that I like being her friend, but don't want to be her roommate when she's counting on me to get her out of a difficult situation? -- HAVING MISGIVINGS IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR HAVING MISGIVINGS: It is not your responsibility to help your friend escape from her parents. That responsibility should be hers. Because you like living where you do, tell her that "on second thought," you don't think moving someplace else would be a good idea for you.
The last thing you need is a roommate who will be entertaining someone you dislike, because you will have no privacy, a lot of anxiety and a lease you won't be able to break that guarantees you have to put up with it for a year. For your own sake, speak up and don't allow her to guilt you into doing something you know you'll regret.