DEAR ABBY: My fiancee and I are getting married next summer. Last summer, my closest friend -- a woman -- was murdered. Her husband was charged with the crime. Both of them were to be a part of the wedding party. The husband, "Frank," was to be my best man.
I'm at a loss about how to deal with this. I can't believe that Frank is guilty, but the trial isn't likely to be finished by the date of the wedding. However, he is likely to be out on bail.
Frank has been one of my closest friends for many years, and I don't want to abandon him, but his presence would unnerve many of the guests who know about this. My fiancee and I are concerned that having him there would make our wedding "the one where the accused murderer showed up."
Do I include him? Should he maintain his place as my best man? If not, how do I rescind his invitation? -- UNSURE IN CANADA
DEAR UNSURE: Considering the notoriety that now surrounds Frank, he should not be your best man. His presence at the altar would distract from the bride, who is supposed to be the center of attention. This is the No. 1 no-no at weddings. However, I don't think you should rescind your friend's invitation to attend the wedding because he is innocent until proven guilty.