DEAR ABBY: My sister "Dena" has a lot of health issues. She weighs more than 300 pounds, has bad knees, ankles and legs, liver trouble and bad nerves. I love her dearly. She's not only my sister, but my best friend. I feel sorry for her, but I can't take her constant complaining every single day.
Sure, everyone has bad days, but Dena complains to anyone who will listen -- friends, family, everybody. She never asks how anyone else is doing. I beg her to make a doctor's appointment. Most times, she doesn't go and keeps complaining.
I don't want to hurt her feelings, but this has taken a toll on me. Abby, I have my own aches and pains to manage. How can I tell my sister -- in an endearing way -- to stop all her moaning and groaning? -- REACHED MY LIMIT IN HOUSTON
DEAR REACHED YOUR LIMIT: Your sister may complain about her aches and pains because she has nothing else to think about. She is limited in her activities so her world has shrunk to nothing beyond herself. How sad for her.
The next time she raises the subject, tell her the person who should be hearing her symptoms is her doctor because there's nothing you can do about them. And follow up with, "Now, Honey, tell me something positive. We all have things to be thankful for."