DEAR ABBY: I met "Angie" on a dating site not long ago. She's an intelligent, open-minded woman. So when one of our first conversations turned to sexual preferences, I felt at ease revealing one of my "likes" to her even though I didn't know her well.
Today when we were talking, Angie mentioned that she had asked her girlfriend about her experiences with what I had discussed. Clearly her intent wasn't to gossip, but nevertheless, I felt betrayed. I had discussed a personal part of myself in a private conversation, and she had divulged what I had said to someone without asking me.
Now I'm not sure I want to continue talking to her. Confidence is an essential part of any relationship beyond a casual friendship, and I don't want her friends being privy to everything that goes on between me and her, even on a "promise not to tell anyone" basis.
On the other hand, Angie seemed concerned when she realized I was upset, and her intentions were not malicious. Should I move on? If not, how do I discuss my feelings with Angie without being confrontational? -- WANTS IT PRIVATE IN TEXAS
DEAR WANTS IT PRIVATE: Angie is not only open-minded, she is also open-mouthed when discussing intimate matters. She and her girlfriend talk about their sexual preferences and activities, or she wouldn't have known that her friend has had the experience you discussed.
If you prefer your sex life kept private, move on because Angie isn't likely to change. If you are so attracted to her that you're willing to have your private life become an open book -- continue confiding in her because it will happen. Let this be a lesson about opening the door to your innermost secrets so quickly in the future.