DEAR ABBY: I had to laugh when I read the letter from "Needs a Real Woman in Florida" (Sept. 8), written by a man complaining about dating women with breast implants. I am a breast cancer survivor and I have implants. I was with a man for nearly two years who knew I'd had one of them done because the scarring was obvious. One night when we were talking, I mentioned that the other one was also false and he didn't believe me. He couldn't tell the difference.
Years ago, I dated a man who told me before we became intimate that he didn't know if he could "handle" being with someone with implants. I should have dumped him then, but I didn't. But the real kicker? We were in the middle of an amorous embrace when his toupee fell off. I started laughing, and that was the end of the relationship. What a hypocrite -- putting down someone else when he had a rug!
I wonder what "Needs" would do if he met a woman post-mastectomy before she had reconstructive surgery? -- GRATEFUL SURVIVOR IN ARIZONA
DEAR GRATEFUL: You are one of many survivors who shared their reason for breast surgery, many of whom pointed out that the biggest "boob" of all was the writer of that letter. Read on:
DEAR ABBY: Women with breast implants are real women. I know because I'm one of them. Perhaps before "Needs" passes judgment on their intelligence, and prior to becoming intimate with them, he should get to know them better. If they trust him, they will tell him the truth.
Some of us have had the surgery because of dramatic weight loss or medical conditions that contributed to the loss of fullness in that area. And some of us did it because we were tired of wearing padded bras only to have our little secret come to light at an inconvenient moment.
I hope "Needs'" bias comes back to haunt him when Viagra no longer works and he needs an implant. -- PERKY AND PROUD OF IT
DEAR ABBY: I have been seriously contemplating breast enhancement surgery. I'm 35 and, although mine are ample, they don't "stand at attention" the way they used to. I'm intelligent and easygoing, but men don't seem to notice us "natural" women.
After reading "Needs'" letter, I have decided against the surgery. Maybe there's some nice guy out there after all who will love me the way I am and I won't have to alter myself to get his attention. -- NEEDS A NICE GUY IN GEORGIA
DEAR ABBY: I can't believe how narrow-minded "Needs" is. Hasn't that man thought about the women who have no choice but fake breasts because of cancer? Would he turn a woman away who went through all the hurt, pain and loss -- just to survive -- and ended up with implants? If he's so shallow, he doesn't deserve a decent woman because she will never measure up to his "high" standards. I know I am a beautiful, intelligent woman -- and my fake breasts are just like my real ones were. -- AN ORDAINED MINISTER OUT WEST
DEAR ABBY: Please allow me to extend my heartiest congratulations to the lucky woman from whom that man is divorced! Years ago, after a breast cancer scare, I had reconstructive surgery. I have it on good authority (my husband) that my breasts neither "look strange" nor "feel uncomfortable."
That -- ahem -- "gentleman" who wrote has an odd and offensive attitude toward women. I know a number of intelligent ladies, and not one would be remotely interested in a man who would judge them according to the contents of their breasts. -- A REAL WOMAN IN TEXAS