DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 12 years to a man who is an excellent provider, but not a loving husband. He works out of town every week and comes home on weekends.
When he's away he ignores my phone calls and won't answer any texts. If I do get him on the phone, he picks a fight with me for whatever reason -- maybe I breathed too hard on the phone -- and that's enough for him not to answer anymore that week. We have three children and he doesn't even communicate with them.
This has been going on for a few years. I love him, but I feel his attitude is belittling. It has reached the point that I'm afraid to say anything. I'm a loving wife and mother, and I feel I should be respected and treated like a wife and not a weekend fling. Please give me some advice as to what I should do. I'm at a loss for words. -- DISTRAUGHT IN TEXAS
DEAR DISTRAUGHT: Your husband appears to suffer from selective amnesia. When he's out of town, he "forgets" that he's married. It is in the best interests of you and your children to figure out what happened "a few years ago" that caused such a radical change in his behavior. You are right that you are not being treated the way a wife should be. That's why you should consider hiring a private detective to find out what's been going on. I am sure that once you understand, you will no longer be at a loss for words.