DEAR ABBY: My wife, "Jana," and I have been married 15 years. She's the love of my life. I can't imagine living without her. We have three beautiful children, successful careers and a nice home. We have a great relationship, and I trust her completely.
Before we dated, Jana ran with a fast crowd. She was also somewhat promiscuous back then. Don't get me wrong, there are things from my past that I'm not proud of, either. But it bothers me that her "adventures" exceeded mine.
We went to Jana's class reunion last fall, and I met several friends from her past. Each guy I met, I couldn't help but wonder if he had slept with my wife. I know about some of her old boyfriends, but not all.
I think Jana knows this bothered me, but she doesn't know how much. I literally became nauseated thinking about her past. After almost 20 years of dating and marriage, I thought I'd be over it. Should I press her for more details or just live with the knots in my stomach? -- CURIOUS GEORGE IN LOUISVILLE
DEAR GEORGE: Neither. After 20 years of dating and marriage, it's time to grow up. You have a happy, successful marriage -- so why are you wasting time obsessing about the distant past? If you have digestive problems, discuss them with your doctor or a therapist. But to ask your wife for a scorecard at this late date will be counterproductive, and I doubt that it will fix what ails you. And in the future -- skip the reunions.