DEAR ABBY: I have been involved in several weddings, and something has come up we hope you can help with. Often with wedding gifts, the card becomes separated from the gift, or in the case of online retailers, they forget to enclose the sender's information in the box. How does one go about thanking people for their generous gift if you're not sure who the sender is?
What is the solution, short of calling and telling people you didn't receive something from them and asking, "What did you get us?" -- C.P. IN VAN NUYS
DEAR C.P.: To prevent cards from being separated from the wedding gifts when they arrive, they should immediately be placed inside the gift box -- and what the item is should be written on the guest list. (The date it was received would also be helpful.)
If something arrives without a card, contact the store it came from, the online vendor who sent it or the company that delivered it. If they can't provide that information, then check your master list to see whose name has a blank next to it and call the person. Sometimes packages have been known to "fall off the truck," and this is a safeguard against theft.