DEAR ABBY: Why do I keep meeting married men? I need a single or widowed man. If they're not married, they are too old! I am a wonderful widow. However, I am attracted to married men. Any remedies for me? Help! -- THE WIDOW QUEEN IN N.Y.C.
DEAR WIDOW QUEEN: It might help if you stop identifying yourself as royalty. You didn't mention your age, but if you are over 50, part of the problem may be that most men in your demographic are already coupled up, which narrows your field of available candidates. It is also possible that, for whatever reason, you are still not emotionally ready to give yourself completely to anyone, which is why you find unavailable men more attractive.
Some ways to widen your circle would be to join a singles group, become politically active, and/or venture onto the Internet and join some of the popular match-making sites where you can meet men who are eligible and looking for partners. Of course, that will mean learning current Internet dating etiquette and remembering what it was like when people used to meet in nightclubs. (As I recall, you couldn't necessarily believe everything you were told then, either.) I personally know several couples who met on the Internet and are happily married. Good luck, and good hunting.