DEAR ABBY: I have a dear friend I'll call "Anita." Recently, during one of our visits to her home in a neighboring state, her son, "Brandon," and our daughter, "Alicia" -- both single -- "discovered" each other. Our families have been friends for 16 years.
When Anita and I were told about the kids, we were surprised -- mainly because they pretty much grew up together. Brandon is three years younger than my daughter. For my part, it's OK. I'm happy for them.
Anita didn't say so, but I got the impression she doesn't think my Alicia is good enough for her son. She claimed she didn't want Brandon to hurt Alicia, since she's been hurt some in the past -- like all of us. What do you think? -- CONFUSED IN NEW MEXICO
DEAR CONFUSED: Please don't be so quick to judge your friend. She knows her son better than you do. Unless both parties are emotionally mature, a three-year age difference can be a problem -- particularly if one person wants to settle down and the other wants to sow some wild oats. Of course, there is risk involved in every new relationship, and nothing ventured, nothing gained. But if it's the real thing, only time will tell.