DEAR ABBY: Both times I was pregnant, my mother-in-law, "Lois," talked non-stop about how much she wanted a granddaughter -- even after my husband told her we were expecting a boy.
My husband's younger brother's wife recently had a baby girl, and now Lois keeps gushing on and on about how "wonderful" it is to have a granddaughter. She says nothing about the joys of grandsons.
Recently, when the family got together, I "did not feel up to going" to the reunion because I was worried Lois would give all her attention to her granddaughter and ignore my sons. As a result, neither my husband nor our children went to the reunion. I worry about my sons not knowing their grandparents. Any suggestions? -- WONDERING IN NEW MEXICO
DEAR WONDERING: You didn't mention whether your husband has any sisters. It's possible that Lois always longed for a daughter, and this granddaughter is the fulfillment of her dream.
That said, instead of nursing a grudge, or avoiding family reunions because of what you are afraid "might" happen, it's time you and your mother-in-law sorted this out woman-to-woman. While it's possible for a grandparent to favor one child over another, it is wrong to demonstrate it. And if, in the future, she does that, you would be right in limiting her time with the boys. But please don't jump the gun.