DEAR ABBY: I am 28 years old and have recently quit my job of six years to return to college full time. My husband is working and supporting both of us for the next two years. We always paid for everything equally and shared household responsibilities, until now.
My question is, now that I am not "working," should I be expected to do all the housework, laundry, cooking, taking out the garbage, paying our bills, etc.? This is what the situation is right now.
Whenever I start to get annoyed or think about mentioning anything to my husband about sharing these duties, I remind myself how generous he is being. I would feel guilty if I said anything, since he is footing all the bills. Yet I am starting to resent being the maid. What do you think? -- LISA IN ITHACA, N.Y.
DEAR LISA: The problem with harboring resentment is that it builds until the dam bursts, and then it is usually expressed inappropriately. In a sense, you and your husband are both "working." Therefore, I strongly recommend that you and he have an adult conversation about the household chores, and what a fair division of labor would be. He sounds like a doll, and I'm sure you can reach a fair agreement.