DEAR ABBY: My beloved wife may be killing herself, and I can't stop her. Once or twice a week she stays up all night baking cookies for her "friends" at work -- huge numbers of cookies. Over Christmas, she was up night after night baking, and it's very worrisome.
My wife is 63 and in a demanding profession. I cannot believe that the body can tolerate sleepless nights like this. She says she takes "a nap" in her car at lunchtime, but I doubt it.
How can I stop her from this self-destructive habit? I don't want to lose her, but I don't know what to do. If I try to dissuade her from cookie-baking, she gets extremely huffy, and it's hurting our marriage. -- MARRIED TO THE COOKIE MONSTER IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR MARRIED: You appear to be a concerned and loving spouse. Sleep patterns can vary from individual to individual, and different people require different amounts of sleep to function well.
However, because you are concerned about how your wife's sleep pattern could affect her general health, suggest to her -- and possibly her physician -- that she might benefit from discussing the subject with a sleep disorder specialist to determine whether she's getting the amount of rest she needs. (And if she isn't, how she can get it.) I hope this helps.