DEAR ABBY: I'm engaged to a very special young lady I'll call "Rhonda." Our wedding date is approaching soon. We're both excited about the prospect of being married.
The problem is Rhonda can't decide who should walk her down the aisle -- her father, who wasn't a big part of her life while she was growing up, although they have a good relationship now, or her ex-stepfather, whom she feels deserves the honor.
The real problem is the grandparents. If she chooses the stepdad, her grandparents will be upset, and she doesn't want to do that. However, if she chooses her daddy, she feels she will not have given her ex-stepfather the respect he deserves.
Please help. -- CONCERNED FIANCE IN TEXAS
DEAR CONCERNED FIANCE: I have a suggestion. Ask Rhonda to draw a line on a piece of paper, symbolizing her life from birth to today. Parallel to it, she should draw another line illustrating how much of her life her birth father had a relationship with her. On the other side of her "lifeline" she should draw a similar line representing how long her ex-stepfather has been there for her.
Now, let's pretend the center line, the lifeline, is the aisle. Her birth father should walk her as far as his line extends on the piece of paper; her ex-stepdad should take her the rest of the way. Unless they both walk her from start to finish, I think that would be a fair compromise.