DEAR ABBY: I'm confused. My husband and I received the following invitation in the mail today:
"We Are Having an Anniversary Dinner for
'BYRON AND EDITH'
"(Sorry, you're not invited!)
"Instead, we would like you to send an anniversary card postmarked by Sept. 3. The card will be given to Byron and Edith at the dinner to add to the surprise."
Abby, we weren't the only ones who got an "invitation" like this. Have you ever heard of anything like this? Is this something new? I think the people who got these invitations were even more surprised than Byron and Edith will be. -- NOW I'VE SEEN EVERYTHING IN OHIO
DEAR SEEN EVERYTHING: No, this is not something new. Social blunders have been happening for years, and this is one of them. How much more diplomatic it would have been had the request been phrased something like this:
"Dear Mr. and Mrs. 'Seen': In honor of Byron and Edith's anniversary, we 'kids' are planning an intimate family gathering. Because you have been treasured friends for so long, we wonder if you would contribute to a 'memory book' we are assembling for them as an added surprise. It need not be long or elaborate -- just an experience you have shared with Byron and Edith that was significant. Please send it before Sept. 3. Thanks in advance. -- Daughter 'Julie'"