DEAR ABBY: I work for a law enforcement agency. Several months ago, my 23-year-old nephew (I'll call him Dion) moved in with me and my mother. Dion is not an orphan. Both his parents are living.
Last month, I discovered that Dion has been smoking marijuana, and selling it, too. When I confronted him, his response was, "Marijuana is better than alcohol." I pointed out to him that alcohol is legal and marijuana isn't, and I don't want it in my house. I could lose my job over this, but he and Mom just don't seem to "get it."
After trying to help my nephew by searching for jobs and helping him with financial aid for school, I realized that I was doing the majority of the legwork while he was lying in bed all day and watching TV.
I have told Dion he must be out by the middle of next month, but my mother isn't backing me up on this. (She's an enabler, and I think I am, too.) I told Mom that either he goes or I do. Is she right? Am I being unreasonable? -- AUNT AT THE END OF MY ROPE IN PASADENA
DEAR AUNT: You're not being unreasonable; you're being pragmatic and rational. Has it occurred to you that your nephew might not just be lying in bed all day watching TV, but also stoned out of his gourd? Stick to your guns. Your career could depend on it.
If it is discovered that he has been dealing an illegal substance from your premises, you could lose not only your credibility, but also your livelihood. If he has been smoking grass in your house, it's likely the scent is on your clothing. Let's pray you get this felon-in-training out of there before a member of the canine unit starts wagging his tail in front of you.