DEAR ABBY: I love my mother very much; however, during the past few years she has changed drastically. My siblings and I are at a loss as to what to do.
A few years ago, my parents found a new hobby -- motorcycling. My 50-something parents are now the proud owners of a Harley Davidson, and they're having the time of their lives.
The problem is my mother has changed her physical appearance. She now wears her hair halfway to her waist, permed and bleached a strange shade of yellow. She wears only clothing that says "Harley Davidson" on it. These shirts are designed for girls in their 20s, not women in their 50s. Mom may be happy, but she looks like a classic Motorcycle Mama -- and it's embarrassing.
Should I say something? Should I tell her I want to see her dress like my mother, not some leather biker queen? It has reached the point that I don't invite her places because I'm afraid she'll show up wearing her HD gear. How can I ask her to dress more appropriately?
Please don't mention my name or state. Mom would kill me if she knew I wrote about her. -- EMBARRASSED IN THE NORTHWEST
DEAR EMBARRASSED: Look at the bright side. You are blessed with parents who are active and in good health. Many families are not so lucky.
That said, because your siblings are in agreement, approach your mother as a group and have a "mini-intervention." Tell her you love her and you're happy she and your father are enjoying themselves, but when you invite her places with you, you wish she'd dress more conservatively. You're entitled to your feelings -- and your preferences.