DEAR ABBY: I am a freshman in college, and I have been having an awful year. My family situation is extremely unstable, and I'm always afraid I'm going to be left alone.
I have a great boyfriend, but I don't want to rely on him for money or a place to stay, even though I know he would support me if I needed it.
I have to maintain a very high GPA to keep my scholarship and continue school. I work as much as I can; however, I can't support myself. I have always been an excellent student (I graduated in the top five of my class), but I feel like nothing in my life is in my control. I work hard and study all day and have no time to myself. I'm afraid I'm always going to be a burden to everyone close to me. Please help. -- STRESSED TO THE MAX IN NEW YORK
DEAR STRESSED: By studying hard and making your grades your highest priority, you ARE doing everything you should be doing right now. Regardless of what happens with your parents' marriage, I'm sure they both want what's best for you.
Before your grades become affected by your worrying, pay a visit to the student health center and ask to speak with a psychologist. Some sessions there will help you realize that your current situation is only temporary, and it won't be long before you achieve the independence you crave.