DEAR ABBY: I have been dating a very special man named "Josh" for three years. He has had only one long-term relationship, which produced two children.
My problem is Josh does not believe in marriage. I do not believe in living with someone, and I do believe in marriage.
I have asked Josh for a commitment on several occasions, and I always get a negative response. Am I being strung along, and what should I do? -- DOWNHEARTED IN OHIO
DEAR DOWNHEARTED: You're not being strung along. Josh has been honest with you -- he's not interested in marriage. In order for a marriage to happen, both parties must want to make a commitment. The fact that he has fathered not one, but two children and didn't marry the mother should be a clue. He's not the marrying kind.
If marriage is important to you, end this romance and find a partner whose goals are similar to your own. You have devoted more time to this campaign than you should have already.