DEAR ABBY: My name is "Lenny" and I live in Florida. About six weeks ago, my girlfriend, "Jill," and I broke up. Jill is 20 and I am 41. She was adopted by her parents as an infant.
Jill's parents saw no problem with the age difference because I had gained their trust during the year before I started seeing her.
Jill and her folks moved to Illinois, but we talk on the phone at least three times a week. I proposed marriage, but Jill said she couldn't make the decision without her father's approval. Her mother was all for it; her father was not.
Jill says that when her parents adopted her, her father put a clause in the contract that he had the right to choose the man she was to marry -- and it was signed by a judge in the state of Illinois. Is this legal? -- FRUSTRATED IN FLORIDA
DEAR FRUSTRATED: No, it's not. Either Jill is lying to you, or someone is lying to her.