DEAR ABBY: I joined an online dating service six months ago. Although my family disapproved, I researched my options and found a reputable company.
After two months of meeting numerous nice people whom I would consider friends, I met a really special guy. We have been talking on the phone and e-mailing for four months. We have never met, nor have we exchanged pictures. We wanted to get to know each other from the inside out first.
We have finally decided to exchange pictures. I asked a friend to take my picture and was disappointed with the results. I know I could look better. She says I'm being overly critical and shallow, that if he finds fault with the picture that I look just "OK" in, he's not worth it.
Shouldn't I attempt to send the best picture I can, even though he assures me that looks aren't everything? Don't I owe it to myself and to him to look good -- not just "OK"? -- OK BUT NOT GREAT IN IDAHO
DEAR OK: Listen to your head and not your girlfriend. Looks aren't everything, but they can be an asset. Go to a professional photographer and have some pictures taken with good lighting -- both head shots and photos that show your figure. It's called putting your best foot forward. First impressions are important, so don't sell yourself short.