DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Ned," and I have been having the same argument for years. I care for our kids and handle all the housework. The only chore I refuse to do is mow the lawn.
Every spring, I buy flowers, plants, trees and herbs to plant around our large yard. I plant them, mark where they are, do the watering and weeding, and show Ned where I've planted them. Without fail, in the middle of summer when my plants are flourishing, my husband will mow them over.
The first few times it happened, he said, "Oops! I didn't see them." Later, he admitted he didn't feel he should have to bother remembering where I planted and go around them. I think he acts this way because he wants me to take over the mowing.
It hurts me that Ned would deliberately destroy something I care about. I feel like he's trying to destroy part of my personality, and it makes me really depressed.
If you're wondering why I refuse to mow, it's because I do EVERYTHING else. My list of chores is already endless. I also think it's particularly mean of Ned to wait until my plants are established and growing beautifully before he mows them. What do you think? -- READY TO TRANSPLANT, ST. JOSEPH, MO.
DEAR READY: It appears you are married to a horticultural grim reaper. Since you have enough to do without adding mowing to your list of chores, a practical alternative might be to hire a neighborhood teenager to do the mowing next summer. If that's not feasible, consider placing a decorative medium-sized rock border around your planted areas so your husband can't mow them down. (Hoe-hoe-hoe!)