DEAR ABBY: "Chad" and I have been engaged for more than a year. Our wedding is in six months. While finalizing the guest list, I discovered that Chad wants to invite some people with whom I am not at all interested in sharing my special day.
"Michelle" was a close friend of mine through high school and college, but we have not spoken to each other in four years. I know Michelle's parents really like Chad, and I remember Michelle's mom telling me that if I ever broke up with Chad she'd like him to date Michelle.
Chad knows Michelle from high school and college only because he was dating me. He occasionally speaks to Michelle since they are in the same profession, and he likes her parents enough to take the time to visit them when he's in town.
I do not want to come across as the jealous fiancee, but I am uncomfortable with the fact that he so badly wants Michelle and her parents to be at our wedding. When I told him how I felt, he said he has known them forever and considers them good friends. Abby, I do not consider Michelle a friend at all, and her parents mean absolutely nothing to me and my family.
This is the only disagreement Chad and I have about our wedding. It's important to me to have only people there whom I truly care about. Should I put my foot down and deny them an invitation, or suck it up and pray they're busy that weekend? -- SICK OF THE LIST IN FLORIDA
DEAR SICK OF THE LIST: Take a giant step backward and let's look at this situation:
(1) Chad and Michelle have a casual business relationship.
(2) Chad was never romantically interested in Michelle, regardless of how much her parents might have wished it.
(3) Chad wants to invite them all on HIS special day, so they can have the pleasure of watching him commit the rest of his life to you.
(4) If I were you, I'd offer them a front-row seat and popcorn!