DEAR ABBY: My sister set me up with a friend of hers named "Darryl" who turned out to be the nicest man I'd ever met. We have dated for four months, and there is only one problem. He has been divorced for three years, but spends most of his spare time with his former in-laws.
Darryl couldn't take time to meet my son and daughter-in-law because he had to go to his ex's nephew's football game. He spends every holiday with them, provides for them financially and lets them use his cars. When his ex-wife is going to be there, they tell him not to come over.
Is Darryl obsessed with her parents? Does he hope his ex will come back, even though she left him and remarried?
My sister mentioned he was close to his former family, but isn't this carrying it too far? I'm confused. Please help me understand. -- CONFUSED IN MICHIGAN
DEAR CONFUSED: Consider this. He was dumped by his wife but still gets emotional support by clinging to his former in-laws. If he were as interested in you as you are in him, he would spend less time with them and more with you. I recommend you lower your expectations, because Darryl does not appear ready for a serious relationship with you or anyone right now.