DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been friends with "Joyce and Dave" for many years. Our children are the same ages and go to school together. We have always enjoyed each other's company.
I find myself increasingly attracted to Dave, and I think the feeling is mutual. I have great strength of character, as I believe Dave does, but spending time with Joyce and him is becoming difficult.
Dave and I do not speak to each other in any way other than with respect and humor -- but there's an underlying sexual tension I can't ignore.
I don't want to spoil our families' shared times together, but I feel I am playing with fire. What should I do? -- CARLA IN PHOENIX
DEAR CARLA: People who play with fire usually get burned. It's time to take an honest look at your marriage and figure out what is missing. It's also time to enlarge your circle of friends and cut back on the time you have available for Joyce and Dave. Please don't put it off.