DEAR ABBY: I am so confused. I can't decide with whom I should spend the rest of my life. My ex-fiance, "Ramon," is in jail. Ramon was a drug addict and is responsible for my bankruptcy. He swears he will be a changed man when he is released. There's also my ex-husband, "Fred." We were married for 10 years. He's the father of my two daughters. Fred swears on a stack of Bibles that he, too, has changed. Both of them want me back.
Ramon is still very demanding, jealous and accuses me of cheating. Believe me, I've had plenty of opportunities, but I haven't acted on any of them.
Fred has remarried, but says he will dump his wife to marry me. Fred hit me a couple of times while we were together -- but truth be told, he is more of a mouse than a man.
What should I do? I can't go to my family. They hate Ramon and Fred, but I love them both. -- WILLING TO TRUST AGAIN IN TULSA
DEAR WILLING: You have batted zero in the ballgame of love -- because you've been playing in the minor leagues. Ramon and Fred are your exes for good reasons. If I were you, I'd explore a third option. However, before doing so, I'd take a break from men for a while.