DEAR ABBY: I met "Racquel" at work and we quickly became close friends. We go out, talk on the phone and share our feelings daily. I have fallen in love with her, and tell her often how much she means to me. I feel ready to take the next step and officially become girlfriend and boyfriend.
Racquel tells me she "isn't sure" where our friendship will lead, and that she is still getting over her ex. (Their relationship ended more than a year ago.)
Last week, she went to her ex's house and they had sex. She told me after it happened and said she knew right away she had made a mistake -- and realized what a true friend I am.
Abby, we cried together. Should I forgive her and hang onto the hope she will now want to have a serious relationship with me? -- SO IN LOVE IT HURTS
DEAR SO IN LOVE: Forgive her, but realize that when she confided what happened, she told you exactly how she feels about you. She considers you to be a "true FRIEND."
I hate to be the bearer of bad tidings, but it appears you are not going to have the romantic relationship with her that you would like.