DEAR ABBY: I am a certified wedding planner. With the wedding season upon us, I would appreciate it if you would publish the following "reminders" for wedding guests:
1. The only people invited are those listed on the invitation. Please do not bring uninvited guests. I've seen a shortage of space and food at receptions because of this. (Caterers often charge extra for the number of guests exceeding the original count.)
2. Please do not bring children unless they are listed on the invitation. They may be the cutest kids in the world -- especially when they're all dressed up. However, it's the bride and groom's day, not an occasion for you to show off your little ones.
3. Another reason not to bring uninvited children is that many reception sites charge by the number of attendees, regardless of the age.
4. If you must bring a nursing baby to the ceremony, ask to be seated on an aisle near the back, so a quick exit can be made if the baby becomes fussy.
Keep in mind that a wedding day is an occasion the bride has dreamed of all her life. Countless hours and thousands of dollars may have been spent to make it perfect. Please don't spoil it for the happy couple. -- SPEAKING FOR ALL BRIDES
DEAR SPEAKING: Every spring I receive wedding etiquette questions by the bushel. Your helpful reminders can diffuse more than a few potential problems before they occur. Thank you for sending them.