DEAR ABBY: Throughout the year, my husband and I host parties in our home for his office staff. Invariably, we get several "maybes" in response to the RSVP on our invitations. To prepare for these parties, I must shop for food and beverages, spend time in the kitchen cooking, clean my home from top to bottom and arrange for a baby sitter.
"Maybe" is not a suitable answer! When an RSVP is requested, invitees should respond promptly, arrive on time, leave at a decent hour and follow up with a thank-you note -- or at least call their hosts.
Abby, are you with me on this, or am I expecting too much? The inconsideration of some people baffles me. -- TICKED OFF IN MICHIGAN
DEAR TICKED OFF: I'm with you. To respond to an invitation with "maybe" is extremely rude. It translates as, "I'll come if I have nothing better to do."
The next time you receive a "maybe" in response to an invitation, reply, "I'll take that as a 'no' -- unless I hear otherwise 48 hours before the event."