DEAR ABBY: After more than 49 years of a wonderful and happy marriage, my wife became ill and died within five days. I was overcome with grief. It has been four months, and I am still depressed and heartbroken. How long will it take for the heartache to go away?
From your experience, do you think it would be better to sell my home that we lived in 49 years with all the memories -- or wait a while? I live out in the country, and my small town and church offer very little social activity.
Abby, I can't seem to think clearly and would appreciate your advice. -- ROBERT IN NEW YORK STATE
DEAR ROBERT: Please accept my deepest sympathy for your loss. There is no set timetable for grieving the death of a loved one.
The best advice I can offer you is to get involved with a grief support group as soon as possible. You can be referred to one by your clergyperson or the hospital where your wife died. It's a step in the right direction.
Equally as important: Do nothing in haste. Make no important decision, such as what to do with your house, for one year. By then, you will be thinking more clearly and will be able to decide what is most practical for you.