DEAR ABBY: I am so confused. Three months ago, I met and began dating a wonderful guy I'll call Jason. I hadn't been in a relationship in more than two years because my ex-husband molested my 6-year-old daughter, and it caused me to distrust men.
When Jason and I are together, he makes me feel not only beautiful, but special and important. Even though I've known him only a few months, my feelings for him are stronger than they've been for anyone.
The reason I'm mixed up is because when Jason and I are together, we have so much fun. But when he leaves, it's sometimes a week or even two weeks before I hear from him again.
When I call him, I get no answer. I always leave a message, but get no immediate call back. When Jason finally does call, his excuse is he went to New York to visit his mother.
I have made it clear how worried I get because he doesn't call to tell me he's leaving town. He also knows I become insecure when I can't reach him.
I'm at a point where I'm beginning to wonder if he is really going out of town to visit "Mother." I think he might be seeing someone else. (I have never been invited to his place.)
Should I give up on him or hang in there, Abby? And how can I be sure my fears and insecurities aren't due to my "trust issues" with men? -- UNSURE AND CONFUSED IN KNOXVILLE, TENN.
DEAR UNSURE AND CONFUSED: Your gentleman friend has a secret life he hasn't shared with you -- and I seriously doubt his mother has anything to do with it. Ask him to level with you -- and if he doesn't, let him go.
P.S. If you really think your fears and insecurities are a result of your trust issues, a few sessions with a professional counselor should put them in perspective.