DEAR ABBY: "Ross" and I have been married for 17 years. We have two beautiful children. Two years ago, he took a one-week vacation by himself outside the United States. When he returned, he told me he had been with other women and needed to be tested for STDs. I was devastated, but I forgave him for the sake of the children. I never bring it up, but it still hurts.
Last night, Ross informed me that he is going again. This time he is taking along a single male friend. I asked him to promise me he will remain faithful, but he refuses to discuss it. He says he intends to go and have a good time, and that we can talk about it the day before he leaves -- which is three months away. I told him it was emotional abuse. He just laughed.
Am I being unreasonable? -- BROKENHEARTED IN BIRMINGHAM
DEAR BROKENHEARTED: Not at all. However, now that you have been put on notice, you have serious decisions to make about your future. Are you willing to again tolerate your husband's infidelity, and the health risks to which you may be exposed? If not, quietly consult an attorney. For the sake of your children, you must protect yourself -- emotionally, physically and financially. They deserve at least one responsible parent, and it appears your husband has gone off the deep end.