DEAR ABBY: Our daughter, "Adrienne," is 20 and not very sociable. She doesn't have many friends.
Almost every time my wife and I go out to eat or go away for the weekend, my wife insists on taking Adrienne along because she doesn't want to leave her home.
Abby, our daughter should be out with friends -- not her parents. I would like to spend some time alone with my wife. How do you feel about this situation? -- FRUSTRATED IN LONG ISLAND
DEAR FRUSTRATED: Your daughter is no longer a child; she's a young woman now. There is no reason why a 20-year-old cannot spend weekends at home without parental supervision. By insisting that Adrienne be consistently present when you go out to dinner or away on trips, your wife is discouraging intimacy with you and preventing her daughter from developing independence. As long as Adrienne is encouraged to lean on you for entertainment, she'll be less likely to forge friendships with contemporaries. Perhaps counseling will help to give her more confidence socially.