DEAR ABBY: My husband (I'll call him Rod) has asked me to solicit your opinion about a touchy family problem. Here goes:
My sister-in-law, "Sandy," moved to New York to get away from a difficult lesbian relationship. She is now involved with another woman. They have been together for about a year.
Sandy has asked Rod -- her only brother -- for a huge favor. She wants him to be a sperm donor for her new partner because they want a child with "family genes." I oppose the idea, to put it mildly.
Abby, Sandy has a history of instability. Most of her relationships are short-lived, and I don't believe this one will last either. Sandy told Rod not to discuss the matter with me, but of course he did. He feels trapped. This drama has been going on since March. She's demanding an answer by the end of July. Please help. -- DESPERATE FOR DIRECTION
DEAR DESPERATE: Should the relationship between your sister-in-law and her partner fall apart, your husband would worry about the child's well-being.
Since you and Rod are both uncomfortable with the idea of his being a sperm donor, he should "just say no" to increasing the family gene pool.