DEAR ABBY: Five years ago, I met and fell desperately in love with a cowboy named "Slim." I believed everything he told me -- that he had married only once and was divorced, that he had only one son. Lies, all lies. Slim was still married when he married me. He stole money and property from me, then took off to be with a woman in another state.
Abby, I adored Slim and was very good to him. I supported him, believing that he couldn't work because he was on disability. We never had sex because he told me he had a bad heart and couldn't perform, plus he had personal injuries from being gored by a bull in a rodeo. I bought him everything he needed and wanted -- clothes, medicine, you name it.
I took my retirement money and set Slim up in a flea-market business, but he took everything and ran off with another woman -- not once, but twice. I guess I wasn't thinking straight because I believed him the second time, only to have him rob me again and leave.
Now he's calling and saying he will do anything to make it work again, but he's still in another state with that woman.
What can I do to get him out of my life and to stop loving him? -- NAIVE NELLIE IN THE MIDWEST
DEAR NELLIE: Recognize that sometimes what we want is not good for us. This can apply to chocolate, alcohol and cowboys named Slim. Distance yourself and stop accepting his phone calls. Also, report him to the police. He is a bigamist and a con artist.