DEAR ABBY: I am attracted to one of my college friends. We went out last Saturday night, and I asked if he would like us to be "more than friends." He said, "No. We're graduating in a few months, and I don't want either of us to become 'attached.'"
I asked him if he would like us to be "friends with benefits." You know -- friends who show affection and who comfort each other, with no strings attached. He said OK as long as I promised there would be no repercussions -- then he kissed me. Abby, it was one of those kisses that if I had been standing up, I would have fallen down!
I haven't been able to stop thinking about that kiss. I know we're going our separate ways in a few months, and I think I can protect myself from becoming attached. On the other hand, do you think I am setting myself up for a fall? -- "NO STRINGS" GIRL IN VIRGINIA
DEAR "NO STRINGS": Yes, big time. Don't sample the goodies unless you're willing to risk addiction and withdrawal. You're hoping that the young man will change his mind about you in a few months and give you a commitment. However, what you really would be doing is fulfilling many a young man's fantasy -- a physical relationship with a woman who has no expectations.
Think twice about your "benefit package." Do you really want a broken heart as a graduation gift?