DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Wayne," and I met in high school. After high school, our friendship grew deeper and we fell in love. We married and had three beautiful children together who are now 10, 8 and 5. I thought we would have a bright future together and watch our children grow.
Two years ago, he began experiencing unusual symptoms and went to see his doctor. We learned days later that he had leukemia. For a year and a half, Wayne fought to survive. Unfortunately, it was not to be. I lost my friend, my husband and the father of my children.
I am now a 35-year-old widow, raising my children alone. I am trying to do the best I can without him.
Wayne told me during his illness that he didn't want another man to raise our children. It was one of his last wishes. Abby, was he being selfish, or should I abide by his wishes? I loved Wayne more than all the stars in the sky. What I fear now is living alone, and I didn't plan on being a single parent.
Should I allow myself to move past this and concentrate on my and my children's future? Or am I being selfish? -- LONELY MOM IN RHODE ISLAND
DEAR LONELY MOM: I offer my sincere sympathy for the untimely loss of your mate. Allowing yourself to move past this tragedy and get on with your life is not selfish -- it's practical. By eliciting a deathbed promise from you that you would never remarry, your husband was trying to hold onto life -- an impossibility. Please don't feel guilty. Life is for the living.